Leaders Being Too Hard or Soft on Teams
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Balancing accountability and support in leadership.
Leading people can be a balancing act. Great leaders know that being too soft or too hard on their teams can backfire. Finding the sweet spot between compassion and accountability takes intention.
Let’s talk about what that balance looks like in practice and how to strike it without losing trust, respect, or results.
The two sides of leadership.
Every leader faces two competing instincts:
The urge to support and nurture your team.
The need to hold people accountable and maintain a high bar for performance.
Leaning too far in either direction creates problems.
If you’re too easy on people, you might build a friendly, trusting environment — but it can come at the cost of results. When expectations aren’t clear or enforced, standards slip, and accountability fades.
“Fear-driven teams burn out, disengage, are less loyal, and ultimately care less about the work and the organization.”
On the other hand, if you’re too strict or overly focused on metrics and performance, people may meet their goals but they’ll do it out of fear, not motivation. That’s not sustainable. Fear-driven teams burn out, disengage, are less loyal, and ultimately care less about the work and the organization.
Both matter.
The most effective leaders know you can’t separate compassion from accountability. They work together.
When people know you genuinely care about them, when they feel seen, supported, and respected, they’re far more open to feedback. That trust gives you the foundation to set high expectations and have hard conversations without damaging relationships.
Accountability, done right, isn’t about punishment. It’s about helping people meet their potential and contribute to the team’s success.
“When someone joins your team, or when you step into a leadership role, make it clear how you operate.”
Setting expectations early.
One of the best ways to create this balance is by setting clear expectations from the start. When someone joins your team, or when you step into a leadership role, make it clear how you operate:
“I’m here to support you, invest in your success, and make sure you have what you need to do great work. And part of my job is to hold a high bar and make sure we’re delivering at a high level together.”
That conversation creates transparency and clarity. People understand both sides of the relationship: you’re committed to their growth, and they’re responsible for meeting expectations.
Giving feedback with care.
Difficult conversations don’t have to be harsh. You can be direct and kind at the same time. The key is being honest about what needs to change while showing that you’re invested in their success.
For example:
Instead of “This isn’t good enough,” try “Here’s what’s missing, and here’s how I can help you close that gap.”
Seeing and approaching feedback as coaching and partnership vs criticism and punishment goes a long way. It maintains the relationships and builds trust while keeping the performance bar high.
Leading with care and clarity.
“Ultimately, leadership is about two things: caring deeply about your people and being responsible to make sure the team is performing at their best. Too much of one without the other throws everything off balance.”
Ultimately, leadership is about two things: caring deeply about your people and being responsible to make sure the team is performing at their best. Too much of one without the other throws everything off balance.
When you lead with empathy and accountability, you create a culture where people feel supported, motivated, and clear about what’s expected of them and the work they deliver. That’s the sweet spot.
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